It’s a wonderful gift when we realize what deliberately creating our lives mean. It’s like taking back your power and truly owning your life every step of the way. It’s freedom and release.
It was a truly liberating moment for me when I realized that my destiny wasn’t written out in the stars and that I wasn’t merely here to accept the way things panned out or to so to speak ‘handle what life threw me.’
Knowing that every thought I think creates my reality, created my past, my now, and will create my future too, is truly gigantic.
It also means taking full accountability for the results that show up…good and bad. We are the only ones that create our life, and truly we are meant to live joyful, beautiful happy days where the Universe or God or Source wants us to have everything we want.
There is no limited source of happiness, no timeline, no ‘one’ way---there is only ‘what feels good?’ What gives you the feeling of feeling good? The feeling of great? The feeling of outstanding?
Is it a run through nature?
A moment with your children.
Cooking a heartwarming meal.
Closing that business deal.
Spending time with your best friend or soul mate.
A memory…
Reading a great book…
Everyone needs ‘their special place’ that memory or action that triggers that ‘feel great’ feeling within you that makes you smile from your liver…
Whatever that is, is the very thing that connects you to being true to you – that connects you to Source Energy.
And there isn’t only one thing…there are many connections we can have…
I now know when I am creating the life I desire. If I feel great---I am creating great---if I am feeling negative, angry, resentful, hostile…I am creating what I don’t want, I hand my power over to whatever it is that put me in that state or whoever it is…its like saying’ here you go, have my life, you create it the way you want as I am too busy being angry right now’….and whilst there are times it may be difficult or ‘new’ to step away from negative circumstances or people, isn’t it truly empowering the day you become fully aware that the ‘choice’ is actually yours and has always been.
You are your journey, do it the way you want, do what makes you happy and keeps you connected, others don’t have to like or agree and its not your job to convince them otherwise….it is your prerogative to deliberately create this marvelous experience called ‘life’….
Written by Melinda
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
"Lost Opportunities"
Thinking of a discussion I had quite recently, about not taking advantages of all opportunities.
There is really no point on delving on lost opportunities.
If they were "missed", there must have been an excellent reason for that, and as long as you keep your eyes, ears, mind open, many more will appear in your life.
Truly, there is a reason for everything, and the point is to live in the present, and be aware of where you are standing, paying attention to your gut feeling.
The moment you do that, and an opportunity comes knocking, the real, true opportunity will resonate so strongly with you, that you will have absolutely no hesitation in embracing it wholeheartedly.
All those other ones that you are looking back on now, and consider "missed", were in fact not right for you at that time, else you would have recognised them and grabbed them.
Maybe they were just there to egg you on - onto to something more appropriate.
Just there to remind you what you truly dream of, allowing you to refine and redefine what you love, making you ready for the next, real opportunity.
There is really no point on delving on lost opportunities.
If they were "missed", there must have been an excellent reason for that, and as long as you keep your eyes, ears, mind open, many more will appear in your life.
Truly, there is a reason for everything, and the point is to live in the present, and be aware of where you are standing, paying attention to your gut feeling.
The moment you do that, and an opportunity comes knocking, the real, true opportunity will resonate so strongly with you, that you will have absolutely no hesitation in embracing it wholeheartedly.
All those other ones that you are looking back on now, and consider "missed", were in fact not right for you at that time, else you would have recognised them and grabbed them.
Maybe they were just there to egg you on - onto to something more appropriate.
Just there to remind you what you truly dream of, allowing you to refine and redefine what you love, making you ready for the next, real opportunity.
Lessons from Dance - "Don't lose yourself"
I embarked on a trip this year, learning all I can about partner dancing, ballroom, latin, Cape Jazz, Salsa, Argentine Tango....
It's been amazing, it's been exhilarating, it's been painful, tough, frustrating.
More to the point, it's made me face who I am... and not always the more pleasant side!
I believe what I love most about this journey, is the lessons learnt along the way.
Most often not only about dancing.
One piece of advice that seemed to rind loudly in my head was "Don't lose yourself". Some of us tend to do that, especially in relationships with other people.
In order for any relationship/partnership to succeed, it is vital for each individual to remember exactly who they are, their likes and dislikes, and to be able to operate independently from the other.
It is the same in dance. in order for the couple to gyrate safely on the dance floor, each has to first cater to his/her own needs, know his/her own boundaries, limits. If you are not stable on your own two feet, no partner will be able to make you dance a graceful waltz or tango...
Often the most basic of lessons are the ones that need most repeating... So basic, so obvious, that we forget to live them.
Dancing/life, is about developing a very healthy and complete sense of self.
The earlier you do that, the easier the dance...
It's been amazing, it's been exhilarating, it's been painful, tough, frustrating.
More to the point, it's made me face who I am... and not always the more pleasant side!
I believe what I love most about this journey, is the lessons learnt along the way.
Most often not only about dancing.
One piece of advice that seemed to rind loudly in my head was "Don't lose yourself". Some of us tend to do that, especially in relationships with other people.
In order for any relationship/partnership to succeed, it is vital for each individual to remember exactly who they are, their likes and dislikes, and to be able to operate independently from the other.
It is the same in dance. in order for the couple to gyrate safely on the dance floor, each has to first cater to his/her own needs, know his/her own boundaries, limits. If you are not stable on your own two feet, no partner will be able to make you dance a graceful waltz or tango...
Often the most basic of lessons are the ones that need most repeating... So basic, so obvious, that we forget to live them.
Dancing/life, is about developing a very healthy and complete sense of self.
The earlier you do that, the easier the dance...
Friday, July 2, 2010
Dreams...
To my two young friends...
Dreams are not supposed to remain in the future. Yes, it is a very safe place to keep them, and some dreams may turn out to be false dreams, once you act upon them and turn them into reality.
All the same, even false dreams have a purpose - they teach you what you don't like, which will help you know yourself better and know what you truly DO love in your life. At times, they bring other lessons that will be useful in later life.
Dreams, (not fantasies) are what you should be living.
Take action to turn them into reality.
Dare to live your dreams. Your life will be all the richer for it.
At times, you may fall flat on your face, but there is always a silver lining to any uncomfortable situation. The breakdown before the breakthrough.
Some dreams have a timeline of their own, and you will get a feeling when to put them on hold, when something is unfinished business, and when another venture turns out to be a wrong path that you can leave behind you without completing it.
There is no point climbing to the top of a mountain, if half way through, you realise you are climbing the wrong mountain. Rather, admit your mistake, turn back, and start as soon as possible your climb up the right mountain.
Discoveries are made by not following rules....
Dreams are not supposed to remain in the future. Yes, it is a very safe place to keep them, and some dreams may turn out to be false dreams, once you act upon them and turn them into reality.
All the same, even false dreams have a purpose - they teach you what you don't like, which will help you know yourself better and know what you truly DO love in your life. At times, they bring other lessons that will be useful in later life.
Dreams, (not fantasies) are what you should be living.
Take action to turn them into reality.
Dare to live your dreams. Your life will be all the richer for it.
At times, you may fall flat on your face, but there is always a silver lining to any uncomfortable situation. The breakdown before the breakthrough.
Some dreams have a timeline of their own, and you will get a feeling when to put them on hold, when something is unfinished business, and when another venture turns out to be a wrong path that you can leave behind you without completing it.
There is no point climbing to the top of a mountain, if half way through, you realise you are climbing the wrong mountain. Rather, admit your mistake, turn back, and start as soon as possible your climb up the right mountain.
Discoveries are made by not following rules....
"I don't know what I am supposed to do"
I have so often heard people say just that.... "I don't know what I am supposed to study", or "I don't know what work I am supposed to do", or, "I hate my job, but what else could I do?"....
It all becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I know... been there not so long ago ;-)
My first answer to that:
Change your self-talk. The words we use everyday, we so under-estimate the power they have on our life. Choose them well, be aware of each word you use, especially, be aware of your self-talk.
Start telling yourself "I DO know exactly what I love doing" and then....
live in the present, be aware, start hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting, looking for the answers that are coming to you. Invariably, they do.
Initially, you may not realise that something is an answer to your question, as it may not come at the expected time, or in the awaited shape or form. Pay closer attention to what you are living, and you will start to understand the answers that come to you.
You have to allow them into your life, however, and that means, letting go of the issue, surrendering to the flow, and being ok to go on as before, even if nothing changes.
The moment you are not focused so intently on having an answer, that is usually when it pops into your life.
Just as when you try and remember something, and say "it's on the tip of my tongue" and are totally unable to make it come into your mind, the moment you start doing something totally different, unrelated, and stop thinking of the subject, that is the moment the answer slips easily into your mind.
THAT is what is meant by "letting it go" - release all tension linked to the issue, think of other things, take action in a totally different direction, and that will allow the answer to come to you.
So, to the question "what work or activity, or next action am I supposed to do in my life?" my answer is, tell yourself "I know exactly what I love to do" with total trust that during the day or coming week, hunches will come to you.
In the mean time just get on with what you usually do, take your mind off the issue, think pleasant thoughts, trust and it will all come to you in good time. Sometimes, the answer is not supposed to come immediately, or, the answer may be negative.... trust your guts, trust your vibes...
and enjoy life -)
Remember, your self-talk creates your life.
Do you choose to tell yourself you're useless and fat? Or intelligent and beautiful? THAT will become your reality. So choose wisely ;-) and be patient and loving and understanding with yourself in the process.
Actually, the answer really is very simple.
We're supposed to do only that which we love and brings joy into our lives. And by doing this very simple thing, only doing what feels right in our gut, all other answers will come to us by the way.
Simple...
All you have to do is pay attention to your true feelings.
Now THAT.... is not always easy, until you make it a habit.
It all becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I know... been there not so long ago ;-)
My first answer to that:
Change your self-talk. The words we use everyday, we so under-estimate the power they have on our life. Choose them well, be aware of each word you use, especially, be aware of your self-talk.
Start telling yourself "I DO know exactly what I love doing" and then....
live in the present, be aware, start hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting, looking for the answers that are coming to you. Invariably, they do.
Initially, you may not realise that something is an answer to your question, as it may not come at the expected time, or in the awaited shape or form. Pay closer attention to what you are living, and you will start to understand the answers that come to you.
You have to allow them into your life, however, and that means, letting go of the issue, surrendering to the flow, and being ok to go on as before, even if nothing changes.
The moment you are not focused so intently on having an answer, that is usually when it pops into your life.
Just as when you try and remember something, and say "it's on the tip of my tongue" and are totally unable to make it come into your mind, the moment you start doing something totally different, unrelated, and stop thinking of the subject, that is the moment the answer slips easily into your mind.
THAT is what is meant by "letting it go" - release all tension linked to the issue, think of other things, take action in a totally different direction, and that will allow the answer to come to you.
So, to the question "what work or activity, or next action am I supposed to do in my life?" my answer is, tell yourself "I know exactly what I love to do" with total trust that during the day or coming week, hunches will come to you.
In the mean time just get on with what you usually do, take your mind off the issue, think pleasant thoughts, trust and it will all come to you in good time. Sometimes, the answer is not supposed to come immediately, or, the answer may be negative.... trust your guts, trust your vibes...
and enjoy life -)
Remember, your self-talk creates your life.
Do you choose to tell yourself you're useless and fat? Or intelligent and beautiful? THAT will become your reality. So choose wisely ;-) and be patient and loving and understanding with yourself in the process.
Actually, the answer really is very simple.
We're supposed to do only that which we love and brings joy into our lives. And by doing this very simple thing, only doing what feels right in our gut, all other answers will come to us by the way.
Simple...
All you have to do is pay attention to your true feelings.
Now THAT.... is not always easy, until you make it a habit.
Being true to yourself
"And this above all unto thine own self be true and it shall follow as the day the night - thou can'st not then be false to any man." William Shakespeare
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